Blog

So I know I have totally neglected my blog. We have honestly been so busy. Going non stop. And we leave again tomorrow. The Lord is just blessing our business. And 5 kids of course keep you busy. So I will be coming when I can to write. I would love to still hear from you. You can always email me. I so appreciate the reader emails that I get. Very encouraging.

I have to start packing. But I leave you with this:
Being unstoppable doesn’t mean you won’t meet failure or setbacks. It simply means that even in the face of challenge and obstacles, even when you’ve failed and fallen so many times, you still get back up even when getting back up is hard to do. That’s what being unstoppable means, that nothing will hold you down because no matter what, you will find a way. Believe in your dreams but more importantly, believe in yourself

Parenting Tip

Sad Instead of Mad

Often parents have a inadequate repertoire of discipline techniques so they do what comes naturally—they use anger as a consequence. Anger becomes the punishment that children learn to fear and the result is distance in relationships. Parents want to express disapproval for misbehavior and anger becomes the vehicle for showing it.

Imagine this scenario: You’re making dinner and your six-year-old daughter, Amy, comes into the room complaining that she’s hungry. You tell her that you’re making dinner and that she needs to wait. She persists and complains that she hasn’t eaten all day. You remind her that she had a snack a few hours ago and then encourage her to leave the room.

Instead of leaving, she begins to whine, “I’m starving.” Finally you sigh and offer her a banana or an apple. “I don’t like bananas! I don’t want an apple!” Okay, you give in. You offer her some milk and a cookie. Amy is so excited she jumps up…and knocks over the milk! You’ve had it! That was the last straw. Now you’re really angry and yell, “What’s the matter with you? Now look what you’ve done!!”

Think a minute. What caused you to lose control? Was it the spilled milk, or was it the fifteen minutes of whining and complaining? If we wait until we become angry to discipline, then we end up responding like a time bomb. Our children can never be sure when we’ll explode.

In this situation, Mom needed to take action earlier. “Amy, it makes me sad that you keep asking after I said ‘No.’ You need to go to your room until I call you for dinner.”

In honor-based parenting, anger and its accompanying distance are not appropriate consequences. Instead, parents learn to reflect sorrow. Some parents may feel like hypocrites because they don’t feel sad, they feel mad. But it doesn’t take long for a parent to recognize that the sorrow is there. It’s just masked by the anger. If you peel away the anger you will genuinely feel sad that your child is acting out or choosing to disobey. You see that their misbehavior will lead to an unhappy and unsuccessful life. Reflecting sadness is much more beneficial to the child and to the relationship.

Try it; you may be surprised. Children often open up in response to sadness and you may end up with a productive conversation. Sadness opens relationships; anger shuts them down. It may take some practice, and self control, but your relationships with your kids will benefit in the end.

This tip comes from the book, Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes, In You and Your Kids by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

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Happy Mother’s Day

I hope every mom that reads this has a wonderful Mother’s Day! We will be going to church tomorrow, and then eating out and then relaxing for the day! My husband has totally spoiled me the past few days leading to Mother’s Day. He is the best!

And I am so so thankful for my mom. I would not be the woman that I am, if it was not for her. I love you mom!

A song

My cousin, as I posted earlier is adopting another little girl from Africa.
Here is a song she wrote for her. And that is Erica holding her through most of the video! Enjoy!

4 emotions…

1. Personal Development – The Four Emotions That Can Lead to Life Change by Jim Rohn
Emotions are the most powerful forces inside us. Under the power of emotions, human beings can perform the most heroic (as well as barbaric) acts. To a great degree, civilization itself can be defined as the intelligent channeling of human [...]

Sometimes

i wish I could snap my fingers and my house would be cleaned and the laundry done….sigh

30 Days

Is the new estimate that was just given to us for the court date for our adoption. MUCH better then a few more months. We will see. Adoptions can take SO much time. We still need some more cash. So we are just believing the Lord for a miracle. He is SOO in control of [...]

The Raining Season

My cousin Erica has started a Non Profit Organization. You can jump on over to The Raining Season and check it out. They are looking for people to sponsor a child for $20 a month. EVERY ONE can afford that. Please go and read about them and hear there hearts. I promise it won’t be [...]

BIG SUPRISE!!!

Today we have a big surprise for the boys and girls. Can anyone guess what it is???